A mum has hit out at her former boyfriend after he called their little daughter fat.
The woman, who has a two-and-a-half year old little girl with her ex, explained that she has full custody of her as he is currently is prison.
She’d been taking their daughter along with her to visit him until recently when they were forced to swap to video calls as a result of the coronavirus pandemic.
But now she’s considering cutting contact altogether after he kept making comments about their child’s weight.
She said that for a while now he has referred to her daughter as “hefty” and even told her that she should go on a diet.
She said: “My ex keeps commenting on my daughter’s weight. He’ll tell me right in front of her that I need to put her on a diet or stop feeding her treats.
“He said she was looking ‘hefty’ the other day and when she asked me what that meant, I couldn’t figure out how to make it sound not awful.
“I have repeatedly asked him to stop and he agrees, but then does it again, right in front of me. I told my ex that we aren’t doing any more video chats until he can learn to control himself.
“He thinks I’m being an a and that I’m alienating him as a parent because he was just trying to protect his daughter’s health.”
But the woman stood her ground.
Although she admits her little girl is “a little chunky”, she has a pretty good diet.
The woman added that she looked the same until she was around six-years-old and doesn’t see anything wrong with it and neither does their doctor.
She concluded her post by asking Reddit users whether she was being unreasonable by not letting him speak with her daughter until he stops making comments about her weight.
The overwhelming response from commenters was that her ex had no right to intrude and that she should protect the mental health of her child.
One person said: “Your daughter is absorbing this stuff. It’s completely unnecessary for your ex to mention her weight all the time.”
Another added: “I understand that he can’t just talk to her doctor about it, but he’s meddling in an area outside of his expertise or range of information in a way that is harmful. Until he can learn not to do that, you have to protect the child.”
A third said: “Toddlers are supposed to be chunky! They hit so many growth spurts and need that stored energy.
“So unless she’s chunky because you feed her nothing but fast food and candy, and as long as she’s happy and active, her body is doing exactly what it should.”
And: “They need that fat for when or if they get sick, they’ve got extra fat to burn off in inevitable childhood illness” said a fourth.